DANS QUEL ETAT D'ESPRIT S’ENTRAÎNER ET SE CONNECTER AU(X) PARTENAIRE(S)
STATE OF MIND
IN WHICH STATE OF MIND TO INVOLVE ITSELF AND TO CONNECT TO THE PARTNER (S)?
Connection is an ultimate principle, a kind of oscillating interior
which makes it possible to the practitioner to be in vibration with its partner (s), to evolve freely by expressing potential full sound, to reach its statute of martial artist whose effectiveness lies in its capacity at living the present moment.
Leaving its fears and its doubts, it gives up its costume of survival to enter the dance of the life and is let relate with confidence to the flow of Here and Now. When the martial artist enters of connection with his attacker; he becomes his shade and forms with him a coherent system. The unit replaces the opposition then. Any attempt at fight becomes vain for the attacker because each attack is turned over against him. Work of connection To work of connection, it is to plunge in the world of the Moment Present, it is to agree to release taken by giving up its reference marks, it is to leave the routine, the practice and the repetition to enter an unknown and attractive universe: that of the permanent creativity. For that, it is necessary to accept to let itself surprise by the other, to give him all our attention for better understanding its intention, to free itself from the security distances to discover confidence. To enter of connection with your partner (s), you must connect yourselves to three essential values: freedom, benevolence and humility.
FREEDOM: You must release yourselves from the obstacles which prevent you from finding the link with your partner: your fears, your doubts, your tensions, your certainty, your judgments, your ego, your comparisons, your desire to agree to make, your will to gain. All these elements are the links of a chain which blocks your freedom and prisoner of your interior world maintains to you by preventing you from being plain in the world of the other, you remain locked up in your microcosm, rather than to evolve freely in the universe, which will be to him the macrocosm.
BENEVOLENCE: Consider your partner with benevolence; it is him who enables you to progress. He grants to you his confidence while agreeing to be your playing field and of exploration. He makes you grow because he guides you on your tracks of improvement while enabling you to explore your limits. He is the mirror of your tensions and the reflection of your emotions. Very critical is a self-criticism, any feeling negative towards your partner reveals you your own frustrations. At the same time, it is by him that the petrol of your being and your potential emerges. By learning the benevolence with the other, I discover the benevolence towards myself and I release my energy.
HUMILITY: No progression is possible without handing-over in question.
The world of the other is another world always differs, always mysterious in which nothing is never acquired. You must remain vigilant. The more you will feel your freedom of movement to open out, the more your ego will fill of a feeling of superiority. Such
a feeling is a brake with your progression because it cuts you of any connection to the other. Regard the partner as a child. Which attitude to adopt with respect to your partner (s)?
The same one as with a child. Stop asking you questions, plunge in its universe. Agree to strip you your knowledge to rediscover your heart of child. Leave the rational and mental world to enter a fully playing dimension. Leave the rules and the codes which govern your life to evolve in a universe where all is allowed. You put his range while becoming benevolent, to player, inventive, curious, authenticates, by adopting soft gestures and while opening to you without fear with the meeting. Be present, quite simply! How to know if you are connected? When you are connected with your partner, you live a kind of plenitude and of freedom of movement. No situation puts to you in the embarrassment. You are never surprised; you are simply at the good place, at the good moment. Your movements are spread in the pleasure, effortlessly and without tension. Your heavy and major blows are slackened (the whip) and your fists become invisible. You do not fight any more against one attacker, you evolve with your partner in the same universe, you are ...... plain towards ..... Thus you are the universe. To connect itself to several partners connection to multiple attackers seems more difficult at first sight. It is however easier to test. It is indeed simpler to release the mental one in front of the complexity of the problem than to cling to a tiring and sterile opposition. The choice is elementary: either you connect yourselves and your body reacts with fluidity and creativity, or you find itself in the incapacity to manage the situation. Moreover, the presence of several people enables you to have a reserve of energy more important than with only one attacker. To be access, there is enough for you to plunge in the moment present.
Start to move in the relaxation thanks to breathing and consider your attackers not as separate individuals but as a total partner in such a way that the number of the attackers becomes an asset. In conclusion, real connection leads to a meeting which makes it possible to the practitioner to find his unit interior and its authenticity. It is through this nutritive connection which the practitioner can open out in what it has of more single and of more effective. You are you already asked the question: How could I enter the combat? If ever you were pilot or that one of your close relations is in perilous situation or even being made attack, how should you intervene? This question as much ethical as moral, do not have of it less one question of survival…. When one nowadays analyzes the violence unchained in the aggressions, one cannot that to wonder about the good reaction has to have. Do I have to strike outset extremely, must try to calm the situation with the risk to lose my best occasion to surprise the attacker from behind? The law says that one has the right to answer has an aggression has height of this one, therefore if the aggression did not begin, legally we become the attacker if we strike the first and in addition from behind…. However to strike the first is probably the best option to finish a combat before its beginning…. A well proportioned striking can sound an adversary time for us to run away before the aggression (because we are not of the heroes and we are not invincible…!!) There arises the ethical difficulty of the chronic insecurity and the objective judgment of a crisis “”. Would we lose any objectivity if our child or our wife were made attack? I think sincerely that Yes!! But whereas must be done? Some lines before I spoke about a question of survival, an aggression is a trauma at the same time for the victim, for the entourage, but especially a quite real risk! When one knows what a bad blow can involve like after-effects or which even smallest of the blades can cause like damage and even to result in death, one can only want to avoid being to oblige to live this situation. And yet an aggression is not a choice… if the escape is not possible, the choice is only one illusion… time to realize and the trap was closed, you “obliged here” to intervene… and the only thing which we miss has this exact moment it is time to weigh the pros and cons..... Not time!!! Let us have to really expect that the incident is stated “really” to pass to the action? Even with the risk that it is too late? The goal of this reflection is not to give us a clear answer and specifies, as if we follow an instruction manual, each situation is different and each person also…. But the simple fact of being to us already asked this question can, I hope for it, us to so facilitate the task adventure we were implied in this kind of situation…. Whereas must be done?